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I Am Superman

My Dearest Cooper,

You’re breaking my heart. Between wanting to pinch your cheeks and soothe your obvious humiliation over what you’re wearing, I am one guide mother who is destroyed that I couldn’t be in Beacon for your first Halloween. You are a vision, and you are woebegone, and I’m confident you worked your baby voodoo on everyone you met last night just like you liquify my heart.

How can anyone resist Superman?

Here’s the thing, Coop, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You ARE Superman. Already. You can do anything, go anywhere, be anyone. Whatever dreams are stored in that gorgeous head, they can come true. From scrutinizing your eyes, I know you are tenacious. You get that from your Mom.

Has anyone told you the story about your Mom? Well, let me tell you, she’s tenacious. From the time I met her, walking the boards of a theater together, she told me she was going to New York to pursue her dream of acting. But, she didn’t just talk about it. She made it happen. She left the comfort of the South, and she went to New York all alone. Almost no one believed she could succeed. Some people even told her to give up before she tried, that she would fail, or worse, end up starring in the sorts of things you don’t need to know about yet.

She listened to her dream.

And, she didn’t fail.

To me, it’s ironic that she met your Dad while performing in a play called “PANIC! How to be Happy.” She had to follow her dream to be happy, and that meant no small degree of panic.

Remember that, Cooper, when people question your dreams. You are Superman. The panic feeds the realization of the reality you seek.

I love you.


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  1. It’s a bird. it’s a plane, it’s Superman!! I remember as a kid watching the Superman series on TV and never realized how hokey it was with wires and all kinds of fake stuff.

    I read a lot of comic books as a kid as well and Superman was so much better in the comics.

    Young Coop will grow up and see things we can’t even begin to dream about yet, what a lucky guy….great parents, wonderful GuideParents and a Superman outfit to boot.

    November 1, 2011
    • Hey Lou did you see the new Superman Returns movie that came out a few years back. It is supposed to be the next part to the old series (like the movies never ended back then, picking up where they left off).

      November 1, 2011
    • I always loved the movies when I was a kid. I never noticed the wires or anything. I always believed he could really fly. :)

      November 1, 2011
  2. Well, because Lou didn’t share it, I am.

    My son Edward came here with this kind of confidence and tenacity. And he’s done everything he’s set his ever so gifted mind to.

    So, Cooper, never be deterred unless you know in your heart that whatever you strive for is not for you…then figure out what is for you and go for it.

    November 1, 2011
    • I found that link, but thought the sound quality was bad. The link on ‘how can anyone resist Superman” goes to a video of the 45 record playing.

      If Cooper is anything like your Edward, he will have an amazing life.

      November 1, 2011
      • Cheryl, my mind went straight to REM as well. This is a beautiful letter to all children, Andra. Cooper is blessed to have such a wonderful role model. His mother. And you.

        November 2, 2011
      • His Dad isn’t bad, either. :) or his guide dad.

        November 2, 2011
  3. Andra, that is a magnificent “letter” to young Super Cooper. He will cherish it when old enough to understand all it imparts. And, he’s an adorable, if somewhat sober-looking, Superman, lol.

    November 1, 2011
    • He is such an old soul. I write him letters here periodically, and I send him postcards all the time. It is fun to be a part of a kids life from the start.

      November 1, 2011
  4. Great letter, which has me thinking of the Google commercial they’re currently running where someone has created a Gmail account in their infant’s name and spends years writing notes and posting photos to their child. I imagine it would be quite a treasure trove when they’ve grown up. I think it’s a really cool idea.

    Of course, if Google is evil… :)

    November 1, 2011
    • His Mom takes pictures of him almost every day and posts them to Flickr for the family. It is amazing to scroll back through them and see how much he’s already changed.

      November 1, 2011
    • We totally did this! When Cooper was born, we set up a Gmail account, to which we send love notes.

      November 1, 2011
  5. Just a wonderful, sweet, encouraging, love letter! ‘Nuf said.

    November 1, 2011
  6. This is a lesson for not only Cooper, but all of us – but then you knew that didn’t you Andra…. I never had a dream (unless you count that hooker dream….thank Golly that wasn’t fulfilled – ha), but I’m oh so glad that a couple of my children do have dreams and goals. When you have a dream or a goal you have something to strive for in life, without it you are listless and roll along….

    Thanks Andra – the love you have for Cooper spills through your post.

    November 1, 2011
    • Lori, if I’m honest, I wrote this letter for myself on some level. :) Words we all need to hear.

      November 1, 2011
  7. Amber Deutsch #

    Fantastic! Cooper and his brave and awesome Mom are lucky to have your voice in their lives. I am taking this as a pep-talk and kick-in-the-pants to me too. It’s too easy for me to get stuck in *getting through* life, rather than grabbing life and wrestling it to my will. I appreciate the reminder, and the realization that I have to do this to model this for my daughters.

    I had you in mind for my Thought for the Day at Rotary today. I am sending it to you through alternate means later today.

    November 1, 2011
    • I’m sorry I missed. I am late responding because I slept until 10:30 today. Blasted colds. But, I feel great right now. :)

      November 1, 2011
  8. “The panic feeds the realization of the reality you seek.”

    That will stick with me for a lo…hell, for good. Thanks, angel… :-)

    November 1, 2011
  9. Sounds like you might be just a teensy weensy bit in love, no?

    November 1, 2011
  10. He is a gorgeous soul, Andra. And that outfit: classic. I wonder what he will wear at Christmas….You’re going to have some amazing conversations with Coop over the years.

    November 1, 2011
    • I look forward to them, Kate. I am hoping to sneak in some time with him in December. We’ll see. :)

      November 1, 2011
  11. His power is cuteness.

    November 1, 2011
  12. mtm #

    Hello. This is your Guide Father. Are you there. Cooper. Do you know me? Do you know Soho? Were your parents Performance Artists? Were they weird? Or were they just….Avant Garde?

    November 1, 2011
  13. Love Laurie Anderson! And would be too cool to meet Lou Reed, but I can appreciate that he might be kind of scary.

    November 2, 2011
  14. You know that the REM song is best Superman song don’t you? And because of you I have been listening to all my old REM since I saw this title yesterday. Is still a thrill that I got to see them here in Charleston about 10 years ago. “I am… I am Superman, and I can do anything.”

    November 2, 2011

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