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Everybody Hurts, and Today My Body Does Too

Do we really know what’s going on behind the veneers of the people in our lives? People tell me – regularly, these days – that my life is on my blog. I prefer to call what I put on my blog a version of my life, the bits and pieces, scattered fragments I don’t mind sharing. All true.

But, not all.

We see people every day in Social Media Land, and we make assumptions about them based on what they tell us. Or, what they don’t tell us. How successful they are. How frequently they travel. How much they make. How much better one life may be from our own.

Here’s what I know.

Everybody hurts. Whether they share it or say it or post it or tweet it, people all around us are bearing crosses as my fingers whirl over the keys, as you read these words. Yesterday, I was chided by happenstance, because I got caught up in life and forgot to remember that sometimes people fade into the ether because they hurt. Because they struggle. Because they don’t want anyone to see them cry.

I wish.

Things didn’t end.

Procedures always worked.

People I love wouldn’t leave.

This post finds me hurting for others.

And, hurting inside, for me.

Hug somebody you love today. Big and strong. Do it for me. Do it for them. Do it for yourself.

Andra is feeling under the weather today, so this post works at the surface as well as deep down inside. Hoping everyone heals a bit, if only for a moment.

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  1. My favorite, though painful REM song. And so true. Everybody does hurt. Some people and some times hurt worse than others. And we cant bear each others pain, we can only hope to make it through our own. And hope they will to.

    It is very easy to get lost in your pain and lash out at others – or at yourself. Too easy.

    November 12, 2012
    • I just wish I didn’t have this stupid, stupid cold………..nobody can even hug me today, because I’ll make them sick. :(

      November 12, 2012
      • I had that cold a few weeks ago. Good luck with it. Get plenty of rest.

        November 12, 2012
  2. Wonderful picture. Life’s a bitch……

    November 12, 2012
    • I’ve always liked this photo, Roger. Thank you. Once in a while I snap a good one.

      November 12, 2012
  3. So sorry for whatever has caused the hurt, sometimes we are just baffled by what happens when we aren’t looking.

    November 12, 2012
  4. Hate that you’re hurting, sweet lady! Will make a point to hug some folks today… in your honor!

    November 12, 2012
    • Don’t get a nasty cold in the process. :) You’ve had enough of those to last a lifetime.

      November 12, 2012
  5. Sorry you are hurting. Your words are so very, very true.

    November 12, 2012
    • I am more sick than hurting. Or, maybe it’s my chest that’s hurting. Or, my nose from trying to blow it. Still, MTM chose this repost, and it is always, always true. There are people who need us more than we realize.

      November 12, 2012
  6. You have just written about one of the most universal human trait, the ability to have empathy for others.

    As a teen I first realized that one could be torn up on the inside over something while carrying on as if nothing was amiss. I remember looking at people with new eyes as that 13 year old girl enduring hell while modeling good deportment daily.

    You can always find a shoulder with me. And a hug.

    November 12, 2012
  7. I truly wish you were here to hug – I’d give you a big hug and I promise I’d squeeze so tight but not tight enough to pop off your head. You are so right on. Everybody hurts. I’m sorry you are hurting. Wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a big squeeze from me. Take care my friend. Got to go and hug someone.

    November 12, 2012
    • I hope you hug a bunch of people, Lori, because it will make their day.

      November 12, 2012
  8. Transatlantic hugs, Andra. The one drawback to cyberspace is that you can’t reach out in a concrete way. I know MTM will take care of you. But I know a lot of us visitors here would love to be able to demonstrate our support too. Eagles wings to you, friend.

    November 12, 2012
    • I’m glad you can’t hug me today, because I might make you sick. :(

      November 12, 2012
      • Maddie’s the same. Some people you hug anyway :-)

        November 12, 2012
  9. Here’s a song. You seem to need one awfully badly. I’m so sad that you’re sad.

    November 12, 2012
    • I’m more sick than sad today, but MTM thought this post would go with either. And, I love the song you chose. :)

      November 12, 2012
  10. Grumble cuss take two

    November 12, 2012
  11. Hugs. Feel better soon.

    November 12, 2012
    • You have snow. How can you be sad about snow?

      November 12, 2012
      • Well, it’s not the SNOW that causes my sad face, but the miserable, bone-chilling COLD that accompanies it!! I cilantro being COLD!!

        November 12, 2012
  12. Right you are, Andra. Everybody carries burdens and it’s important to remember that. I am sure that most share only a fraction of their lives on Facebook. It’s interesting which pieces of that pie they choose, and when. Hope you feel better soon!

    November 12, 2012
  13. Liz DeLoach #

    You know, I just realized I should have said “on social media sites….”

    November 12, 2012
  14. It never entered my mind that what we read is your life. Blogs are like the chocolate shavings on the whipped cream on the cocoa. Tiny slivers of a life revealed, while the writers are popping the rest of the bar into our mouths.

    November 12, 2012
  15. I hope you feel better soon in every way. :)

    November 12, 2012
  16. Get to feeling better! I would hug ya even when you have a cold!

    November 12, 2012
  17. I know I can’t catch a cyber cold by tossing a cyber hug your way . . . but just in case I popped a Vitamin C. Feel better!

    November 12, 2012
  18. Interesting timing that I’m reading this now. I’ve had similar thoughts today, quite frankly. You are so right that everybody carries burdens of one form or another. I’m just naturally more of an optimistic person and I don’t wear my problems on the “outside” very often. And some people have struggles so great that I just didn’t feel like bringing mine to the surface is very helpful. And then this past week I’ve been aware that there are people in my life who really think I don’t have any problems. LOL! And that can be a little annoying, too.

    So I loved reading your very tender and thoughtful composition. But very sorry you weren’t feeling well! Big hugs!

    November 14, 2012
  19. I accidently hit like for a second time on your previous post. I meant to like this one, for the first time. Maybe it’s for the best as I really don’t like that you were ill and hope you are doing better by now. No fun. I came home with a nasty cold myself, compliments of the darling grandkids. It was worth it.

    November 15, 2012

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