Nothing is ever really lost to us as long as we remember it. - L.M. Montgomery, The Story Girl

Nothing is ever really lost to us as long as we remember it. ~L.M. Montgomery, The Story Girl

I’ve lost many opportunities as an author. Bigger writers score features and elite reviews. Recognizable keynotes generate more conference registrations. Celebrity puts butts in seats.

An opportunity is lost ONLY when we don’t try.

Negative responses aren’t failures. I don’t consider the likelihood of hearing yes. If I don’t ask, I’ll never know what’s possible, right?

How many times does “no” mean “not right now?”

In my experience, A LOT. My current publicist rejected me the first time. Numerous outlets refuse review requests only to come back later and agree to feature a different title. Decision makers still say no to my program until I build a reputation in their area or garner a referral from someone they respect. Every milestone gives me the ability to ask again. Often, I hear “yes” the second or the fourth or the tenth time. Don’t ever give up.

Focus on “yes.”

I don’t dwell on people who reject me. Every week, I add things to my calendar. Each addition represents a “yes.” I celebrate those entries with gusto and fanfare. Why? Because people sense positive energy. They’re more likely to say “yes” to confidence.

Today, I’m celebrating my latest big YES. I love doing radio interviews, but I’m not selected very often. Other names drive more traffic.

But on Tuesday, September 20, I’ll sit for a thirty minute interview with Maggie Linton. She has her own show on Sirius XM Satellite Radio. We’ll talk about fathers and daughters. She’s interested in making memories. I’ll highlight both published and upcoming books. Check out Maggie’s website HERE. And if you have Sirius XM, go to Sirius XM Urban View, Channel 126. Tuesday, September 20. 11am – 11:30am.

See what happens when we focus on YES?

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They always say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself. -Andy Warhol

They always say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself. ~ Andy Warhol

If you’ve been here a while, you probably notice a slight change on the site today.

I decided to change comment options.

Since the new site launched, I offered a widget to allow Facebook comments. Many of you have opted to comment via Facebook, and I appreciate all the interaction I can get.

So why the change?

Facebook pages have become a nightmare to administer. I’m lucky. Jendi, my assistant, does much of the heavy lifting. Still, the rules and algorithms change ALL THE TIME.

One of the biggest changes has been in page reach, that is, how many people see each item a page posts. Over 2,600 people have opted to see my posts by liking my page, but Facebook only shows posts to a fraction of them. To get more reach, I have to 1. follow their ever-changing rules to the letter; 2. convince people to engage with my posts by sharing in addition to liking; and 3. pay Facebook to show each post to more people.

Facebook’s current page policies penalize page administrators for not responding to comments. A weirdo halfway around the world proposes to me? I must respond before I ban him. Someone posts a spam message selling dildos on my page? Again, I must respond before I ban. Regular users comment on specific posts? I must respond to EVERY SINGLE COMMENT within a certain time period to obtain most favorable reach. Facebook recomputes my average daily.

When I respond to your Facebook comments on my site, Facebook doesn’t count them as responses. They send repeated red notifications warning me to reply to comments I’ve already acknowledged. Nothing I try changes the outcome.

With a new book launching November 1 and two massive appearance trips in August and September, I decided to remove Facebook stress from my plate. I STILL CARE WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. Please continue to comment on my Facebook page posts, click like, and share with your friends. If you want to comment on a particular post from this site, either use the comment section on the post OR share it on Facebook and tag me in a comment.

I want to hear from you.
That won’t ever change.

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This is part of a series of pictures about making memories. If you liked the story why not share it with your friends? Let’s meet on Facebook or Twitter. If you prefer pictures you will surely like my Instagram. I’ve collected inspirational things and more on Pinterest! Any comments? Write them below!

It's only too late to make memories when it's too late. AndraWatkins.com

It’s only too late to make memories when it’s too late.  ~ Andra Watkins

Do you save voicemail?

My cellular provider is maddening. They don’t provide much room to save as many as I’d like. I resorted to saving special messages as audio files on my iPhone. We lose people a little every day. I don’t want to forget what people sound like.

When they’re gone, it will be too late to collect sound.

Take my Aunt Lillian. She’s almost ninety. I’m still her Baby Andra. I treasure every message from her, because each call may be her last. Oh, she’s still going strong, but we all have an end date.

Listen to one of my favorites.

Dad calls me almost every day. My voice memos are stacking up. This recent one where he crows about people calling him Hot Shot at his Kiwanis meeting is delightful.

Listen below.

Sound is the backbone of memory. How many times have you been transported to childhood because of a simple tune?

When I can hear the memory, it’s more complete. I started saving these snippets, because I don’t ever want to forget them.

Do you have a Soundcloud account? I’d love to hear some of the things you’ve stored there. Drop a link to your page in today’s comments. Or start your own account by following the link HERE.


This is part of a series of pictures about making memories. If you liked the story why not share it with your friends? Let’s meet on Facebook or Twitter. If you prefer pictures you will surely like my Instagram. I’ve collected inspirational things and more on Pinterest! Any comments? Write them below!