3 Generations Make A Memory In Italy

Sometimes, I open my email and find better stories than I can weave. Here’s three generations making a memory  from reader BJ McCafferty.

Hi Andra,

I was in the audience when you spoke at the History on Tap Series in Crandon, WI. After we met, I read all three books and love them.  I especially liked “Not Without My Father“.

You wrote as you signed one of the books, “Make a Memory”.

I told you I was taking my granddaughter to Italy this summer.

We are beginning our journey next week, and Sofie(8) says it is going to be an “Epic” trip!  I believe her! I will record memories, but sometimes I’ll leave my camera behind and enjoy the moments.

May your Days be long and your Memories Bright,
BJ McCafferty

Grandma and granddaughter

Dear BJ:

I’ve thought often about your upcoming trip with Sofie. My grandmother never saw the ocean and only visited three states. Your adventurous spirit is going to inspire and mold your granddaughter. I hope you’ll tell me all about the trip.

If you’re going to Florence, visit Aqua Flor. I love their soaps and scented waters. The place looks like an old lab, and the proprietor is charming.

I’m also glad to hear you enjoyed my books. The fiction is the most fun for me to write, but I understand why NWMF appeals to so many people. I love what it’s done for Dad and me. His 83rd birthday is tomorrow, and we’re going to celebrate with him.

Please give everyone in Crandon my regards. I enjoyed my time with you so much and look forward to returning someday.


granddaughter and grandmother

Hi Andra,

Just a couple of photos of our trip.  It was epic!

I am so glad to have shared it with my granddaughter and my daughter. The first day in Rome we walked over 10 miles…..not quite 15 though. I have been sorting over 3,000 photos since our return.

All my best to you,
BJ McCafferty

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Thank you to everyone who supported my brother and my parents during our recent crisis. Since I shared my brother’s situation, I’ve tried to respect his privacy.

I write about him today
because he could use continued encouragement.

A person may walk away from a suicide attempt. He may be told his body processed an overdose without any negative long-term impact to his overall health. He may hear over and over again, in therapy and at home, how much he matters.

He hasn’t given up. Doctors are adjusting his course of treatment. Next week, he’ll be evaluated for a program we both believe will help him heal.

Whether you’re the praying sort or the positive thoughts sort,
please reserve a space for him.

The mind is a tricky thing. It usually fixates on whether or not a life matters to specific people. When those people don’t care about a life, it’s easy to believe no one does.

Every life matters. Every. Life. Whether an individual thinks he matters is irrelevant. Every. Life. Matters. If you know my brother, once knew my brother, or are a stranger with a few seconds, I know he would appreciate that message in the coming days.

Thank you again to everyone who contacted my parents, my brother, and me. Thank you for the cards, letters, calls, visits, and messages of encouragement and hope. Thank you for the continued requests for additional information. While I don’t want to make multiple posts about a private matter, I believe it’s important to acknowledge the efforts of so many people. Thank you. Thank you. And thank you again.

life mt hood

I’m living proof of the old cliche: We never know what burdens others shoulder. As I wander the corridors of despair, I’ve been touched by so many people. Thank you for reaching out to my family and me during our greatest crisis.

My post today is an example of how a reader tried to cushion my fall. Thank you to Shelby, North Carolina’s Becky Love for sharing her Make a Memory story with me last night. It hit my inbox as I groped for how to tackle this day.

Before I turn things over to Becky, I’ll provide a quick update. My brother was transferred to an inpatient care facility on Sunday. He will likely be there this week, with a week of outpatient intensive care next week. Please keep texts, cards and messages coming. When he rejoins us, he needs to know he matters to many people. I can provide contact details to anyone who messages me privately.

And now, please be uplifted by Becky Love’s Make a Memory story. She worked to make this happen for months after she met me in Shelby. I’m glad to know she made a memory with an incredible human being.


Hi, Andra.  Becky in Shelby reporting in.  I’m so sorry to read about your brother’s suffering.  I’m writing to let you know that on Saturday 9/19, my make a memory moment will come to pass when my 92 year old  friend, R.C. Nanney, receives the Heritage Bridge Award for his contributions to the musical heritage of Cleveland County, NC at the Art of Sound music festival.  I wrote a synopsis of his life and creations that I have copied below.  Maybe it will give you a smile during these dark days.  I will be keep thinking of your family and praying for hope.

R.C. Nanney has exemplified the spirit of Cleveland County musical heritage throughout his long life.  Music has been the foundation of his various professional and leisure creative pursuits.  The ability to combine his natural curiosity, wholesome humor and clever innovations while adapting to changes in tastes and technology keeps his work vital and appealing, even today.

Born in Charlotte, NC on August 30, 1923, he was raised in Cliffside, NC where he had experiences that influenced his early interest in music.  He worked in a bicycle shop with his dad early on, and at WSPA on Saturdays.  He took the stage name “The Rhythm Kid” as a young man playing music around the area, and at WGNC’s Saturday Night Barn Dance at the Gastonia Armory.  He enjoyed visiting on weekends and jamming with his cousin “Whitey” (Roy Grant), one of the founders of the Briar Hoppers.  R.C. married Selma Lee Canipe, a Cleveland County native from the Belwood area, in December 1941, and they settled here to work together on many projects over the years of their long and happy marriage.

R.C. made a lifelong friend of Paul Lemmon, photographer for The Star when he came to interview R.C. and Selma as they opened Park View Rest Home on West Marion Street, Shelby in 1952.  Later R. C. became photographer at the Cleveland Times.  Paul and R.C. both can recall what they purchased with monies earned when their photographs were picked up for syndication.  R. C. tells a story about photographing Don Gibson while he was home with the first Cadillac he purchased when fame came his way.

In 1956, R. C. Nanney signed WADA on the air for its first day of broadcasting with Boyce Hannah as owner.  He hosted a country music radio show as Curly Lee (a combination of his curly hair and Selma’s middle name), and interviewed and played with many famous guests including a rodeo show with Gene Autry.   While at the station, he and Selma organized talent shows at local schools, obtaining sponsors for prizes and granting the winning bands a 15 minute spot on the Curly Lee Radio Show. 

In 1962 R.C. and Selma sold the nursing home they ran for 10 years and purchased a house on Highland Avenue to open a photography studio there.  They photographed many residents and events around the region, including many weddings.  Later in the 1960s and early 1970s they traveled for a company that inspected retail stores.  R.C. had a routine after they settled in their motel for the night to review the phone book for anyone he might know.  In one town near Nashville, Tennessee, he found Don McClain who had been Sports Announcer at WOHS when R. C. was at WADA.  He called Don and talked for about two hours.  Don told him about an opportunity that he thought R. C. would be well-suited for, a new TV show getting ready to start called “Hee-Haw”.  R. C. felt it wasn’t worth the risk of the good situation he and Selma had.  In retrospect, he uses an expression from his dad, “That’s where I dropped my candy”.

R.C.’s describes their decision to stop traveling with this adage: “When you get so far from home they don’t know what livermush is, it’s time to come home.”  Throughout the years of earning a livelihood, they always had other artistic endeavors that usually involved music.  They traveled and played gigs around the region with friends, and formed Nanco Productions to make their own movies that included their musical offerings (Clean Up in Selma County was an early one that featured the lovely Selma playing castanets), but several of their projects carried their names beyond the boundaries of Cleveland County.

R.C. says he was born acting the fool, so he just kept right on doing what came naturally.  His acting roles include several Earl Owensby movies, (interestingly Earl Owensby grew up on the same street as R.C.), the TV miniseries Chiefs, many TV commercials and his own film productions.  Some of these, such as Hyperspace, became popular in other countries. 

The TV commercials became widely popular for their homespun humor.  The most memorable involved a “Re-bait” on Pontiacs.  R.C. and Selma provided really effective advertising for local companies, appearing in some continuing segments with the byline, “The Love Affair Goes On”.

R.C. bought land near Selma’s family land close to Knob Creek and he and Selma built the home where he still lives.  This put them in the right place for another foray with fame.  The legend of Knobby, a bigfoot-type creature sighted several times near Carpenter’s Knob in the late 1970s, caught R. C. and Selma’s fancy.  In fact, R.C. gave the creature its delightful name.  In 1986, they wrote, produced and acted in a film with other friends and neighbors starring Knobby.  The film became a cult classic and was in high demand in video stores.  R.C. performed and recorded the music for the movie including the Knobby Song, describing characteristics of the creature, identified finally as the Belwood Wampus Cat.  The popularity of the original Knobby movie led to sequels:  “Return of Knobby” in 2005, and “Knobbett” in 2010. R.C. printed T shirts and hats with his drawings of Knobby on a screen printer he made.   Sightings of Knobby in more recent years brought about a revival of interest in all things Knobby.

 Nanco Productions made several other movies with local actors, and R. C. made a shorter film, “The Lizard Man”, with the help of his friend Paul Lemmon after the death of his beloved Selma.  He stays active with Outsider Art projects and also records jam sessions with his friends, including Buster Kendrick, Heritage Bridge Award recipient in 2013.  He recorded a musical variety show, Curly Lee Takes Vegas, with help from his friends at Creative Network Studios, and a paintball commercial with Buster last year.  Even at over 90 years old, he still has other projects in mind.

All of the Nanco Productions include beautiful scenery of Cleveland County and original music by R. C.  They remain as compelling evidence of the Nanney’s talents, their love for one another and their home, and how one can enrich life by using imagination, ingenuity, and wit.  And always, the power of music.